Happiness isn’t something you stumble upon, or something that you get. It is something that you are. But not in the sense that you need to be enlightened. Let it move through you, let it happen to you, and let yourself become a part of the slow moving movement that is true happiness. It really is simple. Whatever you are feeling right now, whatever you are thinking just be with it. Let it be who you are, feel it, live it, and with that experience comes the calmness which allows you to move through it and into a state that is above mere feeling and thinking. But don’t let it define you. Let yourself be that vessel, through which emotions flow.
The fear of letting go
Is harder than the letting go
I want so much to surrender and trust
Yet I need the feeling of acceptance
I am willing to be your canvas
You can make me into any painting you want
But you need to pick me up
And do the brush strokes
With the paint that comes from
And when you love them you still don’t have to behave for them. You don’t have to be the “good” daughter. Be who you are. Be all of you, sinner and saint, bum and workaholic. Embrace all the parts of you and love. This is your only true responsibility.
One key to cultivating a deep relationship is to always express your deepest yearning through the primary emotion that emerges from your open heart. Express your deepest heart immediately and spontaneously through your open and relaxed body, before suppressing it and allowing a secondary emotion to build up inside.
Offer your feminine sexual energy through your deepest heart’s yearning. The radiance of your deep heart’s yearning is the beacon that attracts men of integrity. Not your neediness. Not your independence. Rather, deep men are attracted and inspired by your heart’s acheful offering, your blissfully anguished heart-plea to be taken-and the fact that your heart’s light won’t settle for anything less than total claim in divine love
That’s why, as you grow more open in two-bodied love, you must choose and inspire a man whose spiritual and sexual direction you trust more than your own. And your man must choose and claim a woman-you-whose heart-responsiveness and deep sensitivity he trusts more than what he can see for himself.
You always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as you are-right now-which means that a man will be as actively present with you as you are actively radiating your love and allowing your yearning to open in his company and when you are alone.
Love is not something that happens or not. Love is a discipline, a constant practice and commitment to feel and love your shells, relaxing with humor and surrendering open through your love-softened shells that would otherwise suppress your energy and build walls around your heart.
Trust love-not a man or yourself. No person is worthy of total trust. Any man will, at times, waver in his love or falter in his commitment. And you will often waver in your own capacity to love yourself, as you often have.
Words of divine consciousness: moral exaltation; lasting feelings of elevation, elation, joy; a quickening of the moral sense, which strikes one as more important than an intellectual understanding of things; an alignment of the universe along moral lines, not intellectual ones; a realization that the founding principle of existence is what we call love, which works itself out sometimes not clearly, not cleanly, not immediately, nonetheless ineluctably.
I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unerring ease.